POST BREAKUP ADVICE

So you have been dumped. Welcome to the club! You and about a billion other people. Face it, the average US citizen goes through around five breakups before entering marriage. Chances are, if this is your first breakup, there will be many more to follow. I am not suggesting that it is okay to break up with your girlfriend, I am just trying to make clear that breaking up is a fact of life and you will probably be going through a lot more breakups before settling down.

MOURNING

Life is like a bed of roses. Full of thorns everywhere. Directly after the breakup, it is okay to feel sad, even to cry. At this point of time, life looks bleak indeed. I would suggest giving yourself a mourning period of about 2-3 months to wallow in your depression. Some people take over a year to get over their lost loves. Mope around all day if you want to, but after the 3 months, get on with your life.

MOVING ON

If you are still feeling depressed, get your friends over and talk about it. They will encourage you and tell you that she was a waste of time anyway and that you deserve better.After that, you will feel a whole lot better inside and a lot more confident because you know your friends are behind you all the way.

Most people hesitate to find a new girlfriend after their breakup because they feel guilty inside. Their subconscious tell them that they are betraying her. This is completely natural since you still are thinking about her. The only way to overcome this is to go out and meet new people, something which should come easy to you if you have gone through the rest of Adolescent Adulthood, especially the sections on Flirting and Dating. After a year or so, you might begin to see the wisdom in breaking up and look back and say, "Yeah. Good thing I broke up then, If I hadn't, I'd still be stuck with so and so" Having gone through your previous relationship, you will be able to handle future relationships with more confidence and maturity.

REMINDER

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