From: security curmudgeon (jericho@attrition.org)
To: Pat Sirom (patsirom@hotmail.com)
Date: Thu, 30 Nov 2006 19:57:42 -0500 (EST)
Subject: Re: please help :]


Hi Patsi,

: i REALLY need to hack into my boyfriend's account. His email is
: (myhighsocietyrok) i'm pretty sure he's been cheating on me and well...

Most girls have a good instinct for that type of thing..

: it's a really long story. but basically he did a LOT of bad things to
: me. and he ALWAYS says he has changed afterward. and now after all he's

How many magazine articles, books, movies, tv shows and lectures from
friends and families do you need to hear that pattern from, before you
realize that guys lie?

No offense, but you sound relatively young. How many bad things has he
done that are truly outweighed by the good? Does him being 'ok' or 'good'
some of the time really make up for the bad things?

: done, he's trying to show me he's changed and EVERY DAY he tells me he
: loves me "with all [his] heart" and he's different and he's going to
: prove it and so forth.

If he loves you, he wouldn't do bad things. Plain and simple.

: and certain circumstances have lead me to believe he's lying to me..yet
: again.

"Yet again" should be your first and biggest hint. Your instinct says he
is doing bad things and disrespecting you. His history says he likely is.

: and i really need to find out. so that either i can believe him, or have
: PROOF that he's lying and move on.

Rather than move into the territory of felony computer crime, just
challenge him. Catch him a bit off guard, demand to know what he has been
doing when away from you. Look at his reaction, facial expressions, body
language, the types of words he uses, mannerisms, etc. After all that,
then consider what he actually says.

Jericho